I’m not everybody’s cup of tea and I am ok with that, really I am. I have tried to be likable by everyone in the past and have gone just about crazy doing it. I have tried to mold into what everyone else wanted/needed from ME and have lost myself in doing that. So one day, I admitted “I am NOT for everyone and I AM ok with it.” By admitting those words, it was liberating. By actually saying those words out loud, I freed my soul and really began to find my true ME again. By finding my true ME, I began to be even happier.
So in reality, I was going about it all wrong. I was trying to be happy by making others happy instead of focusing on ME first. Isn’t that the case most times with women, we want others to be happy, healthy, well taken cared of and oftentimes, (heck, MOST TIMES) we forget, and in turn, neglect ourselves.
See, once I got out of the please-everyone-else cycle and accepted (and liked!) ME for ME, I found that I was able to be happy. And that in order for ME to truly be happy, I had to put ME first. Then and only then, could I have a more positive impact on other people in my life.
NOW don’t get me wrong, I do not go out and purposely try to make myself the most important person in the universe. Quite the contrary. I find that if I can get to my happy first, then I strive to make a positive outcome for others I come in contact with during the day.
PS – I know our happiness is our own creation, but I like to spread joy if possible!
Melissa Emanuel is a proud partner, speaker and co-conspirator of LoseYourExcuseNOW.com. She believes in empowering women, coaching them to be strong, accept and be themselves and what a better way to start than with “A Beautiful Me®.”